She had got me thinking. These questions now are running through my mind:
1. How do you define love to your loved one, is it measured by money, or is it measured by your willingness to spend?
2. Should your willingness to spend overrule your rationale for saving money?
3. Am I stingy, if measured by the definition of stinginess according to my wife?
My daughter asked me a question, a few minutes before I turned on this laptop, "Papa why don't you want to spend for Kuya?" "Well its not the idea of not wanting to spend..." I answered her. But then I paused, thinking what to say next. Then she continued to answer her question, "Just spend a lot. Because you need to buy cake, balloons, ice cream and everything and spend to make Kuya happy!" There, she's answered it.
I love my family, both of my kids and my wife. Maybe my wife's right, sometimes I am too stingy to spend for my loved ones. This attitude should eventually be removed from my life.
My daughter's right, I should follow my willingness to give rather than give in to my rationale. This attitude is going to ruin my wife's love for me, eventually. Money could be earned and sometimes find its way into my pocket, but my family's happiness is not something that I should overrule out of my rationale.
Well, this is me thinking out loud. I hope if anyone's reading this, which I doubt, learn from my mistake. You should not limit on how you spend for your loved one, may it be time, money or resources. As long as you can afford it, don't hesitate to spend.